Many people today believe that having self-confidence has something to do with one’s accomplishments or societal status. However, others think that it has something to do with having a certain kind of body, the way one looks, or even how popular they are with friends and society in general. The idea of self-confidence is perhaps one that women need a lot of clarity on because oftentimes we see promotions on what new thing to get, which make-up to use, and which “fix you up” products that are all supposed to magically give you an increased sense of self-worth and greater confidence. But does any of this really work?
Personally, I know it doesn’t work at all, for I started off trying to get rid of my insecurities, self-loathing, and criticism by buying all the best things I could find to enhance my beauty and confidence.
Definition Of Self-Confidence, And Where Does It Come From?
Confidence is defined as the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on something or someone. Self-confidence then is the feeling or belief that you can have faith in and rely on yourself.
It all comes from the Self, and the error we have made far too many times is in making our capacity, abilities, and sense of worth dependent on something other than self. However, this brings me to the first point I wish to drive home, and the self is the real, infinite, and eternal you. But that self-experiencing your current life is under a certain belief, idea, concept about who and what it is. This idea is called self-image. It is the image of self that your mind has believed and defined as you. Suppose this image is healthy and built on the right foundation. In that case, you have a great thriving lifestyle because your confidence is booming, which means you’re deliberately designing and generating the kind of conditions rolling out in your life. However, suppose you didn’t form a healthy and true image of self for one reason or another. In that case, real confidence and belief in yourself is something you struggle with, which naturally reflects on the quality of life you get to experience on a daily basis.
Improving Your Self-Confidence
Those I get the privilege of working alongside in our group coaching programs that are unusually successful work harder on themselves than they do on work or in their business. As a result, they have mastered the art of self-efficacy, continuously building their self-confidence.
If you are good at not allowing obstacles from others at home, work, or in business to affect the way that you feel about yourself, you are probably someone who learns by experience, and you manage your stress levels well. However, we can always improve our self-confidence no matter what level we have reached.
To remain full of validation and success requires you to be aware of your fears, evaluate your self-worth, understand both internal and external struggles, and keep your stress and anxiety in check.